If there’s one thing most people today can agree on, it’s that we live in a highly divided world. So, what can we do about it?
The first step toward connection and acceptance is understanding. To understand how we got to this point, let’s look at three basic patterns of human nature:
It’s no big surprise that social media makes it easier for these patterns to take hold. You don’t need to physically move to a neighborhood where you’re surrounded by like-minded people — although that is happening, too — all you need to do is like, follow, and subscribe to those who share your opinions and avoid those who don’t.
That’s when things get really dangerous. The more you separate yourself from the “others” you disagree with, the more your own opinions intensify and the harder it is to see reality for what it is. Studies have shown that members of opposing groups often have exaggerated beliefs about each other’s positions. And this skewed perception makes it harder to relate to each other.
The key to overcoming the powerful forces that are tearing relationships and society apart, according to author Monica Guzman, is to become more curious. Being genuinely interested in another’s experiences and perspectives breaks down the walls between us and builds a bridge that can connect us. Curiosity allows us to see each other as individual people, not as members of a group whose ideas we feel obligated to prove wrong.
Try these strategies to boost your curiosity — and open your mind to more meaningful connections with a broader diversity of individuals:
In her book, “I Never Thought of It That Way,” author Monica Guzman defines “bridging conversations” as ones that help us understand each other by letting ourselves explore the spaces between our perspectives.
To have a bridging conversation, all you need is a willing mind and a little time, she says. She also suggests this experiment:
Using this approach allows conversations to go in surprising new directions — helping you learn more, explore issues more deeply, and spark more “I never thought of it that way” moments. Give it a try!